Guys with Girlfriends:

[ssj_jaypee]

How much effort do you put into your relationships? Do you just do the bare minimum just to keep her around or do you actually try to make her happy? I'm just curious on how often you do something nice for your girl. Is it daily, monthly, or almost never?

With me, it depends on the girl. This is where the whole 'high maintenance' / 'low maintenance' labeling comes from. Some women are happy and will stay in a relationship if you do next to nothing, others want to be doted on constantly. I can deal with either end of the spectrum, but if it is on-going relationship then you should get as well as you give. Meaning, I'm not going to stay around long if I'm doing really nice stuff all the time, but am not seeing that reciprocated.

[PH47]

Helps when your girlfriend is also your best friend, loves cars (especially Fords), understands that i'm me and I can't be changed, and is willing to eat maggi noodles to more money can go towards the car

I -do- put a fair bit of effort into making her happy whenever/wherever I can.. but then again I receive as much as I give, so it's all good.

[sfr rob]

well, i treat my lady with respect and the way that i want to be treated by her.

we have been together for 5 years now, high school lovers... (you know how it is) and i am still crazy about her.
She does EVERYTHING for me, and i try and do EVERYTHING for her.
she is my BEST friend.

WE DONT FIGHT.... FULL STOP.

pretty much i try and do something every week which is special.

for instance this weekend we went away to gippsland.

weekend before that i took her away to falls creek, etc etc.



I plan on marrying this girl next year and i think i have trained her well! LOL.

**waiting for punch in back of head **



Cheers
Rob

[Psycho Chicken]

Effort? haha it's a wonder I can hold onto the same girl for 2 years. Or is it 3? Buggered if I know!

[DivHunter]

Originally Posted by sfr rob

well, i treat my lady with respect and the way that i want to be treated by her.

we have been together for 5 years now, high school lovers... (you know how it is) and i am still crazy about her.
She does EVERYTHING for me, and i try and do EVERYTHING for her.
she is my BEST friend.

WE DONT FIGHT.... FULL STOP.

pretty much i try and do something every week which is special.

for instance this weekend we went away to gippsland.

weekend before that i took her away to falls creek, etc etc.



I plan on marrying this girl next year and i think i have trained her well! LOL.

**waiting for punch in back of head **



Cheers
Rob

So with her doing everything for you and you only trying to do everything for her she ends up doing everything for herself, trained well indeed

[Quadcams]

Originally Posted by ToasterOn22s

Helps when your girlfriend is also your best friend, loves cars (especially Fords), understands that i'm me and I can't be changed, and is willing to eat maggi noodles to more money can go towards the car

I -do- put a fair bit of effort into making her happy whenever/wherever I can.. but then again I receive as much as I give, so it's all good.

You sumed that up pretty good mate except I dont know how i would go telling her that we are eating maggi noodles so I can get more mods.

[sfr rob]

Originally Posted by Fairmont99

So with her doing everything for you and you only trying to do everything for her she ends up doing everything for herself, trained well indeed

hmmm yeah! lol..
well i "TRY".

Yeah, I tend to make an effort to do whatever I can to please, because it is just who I am, I'm like that with everyone. We've been through a lot and it has really shaped who we both are. It has been 2 and a half years now and we tend to have our blues every now and then, but it would never stretch for more than 8 hours or so. Doing special things with her is a bit hard as her parents are strict (mother is of Lebanese background) but we do manage to do things from time to time. We always try to keep each other happy.

For those that are single and looking, bit of advice, make the most of your freedom. Your not missing out on much. Those in relationships, keep yourselfs and partners happy.

[donno]

Originally Posted by ToasterOn22s

Helps when your girlfriend is also your best friend, loves cars (especially Fords), understands that i'm me and I can't be changed, and is willing to eat maggi noodles to more money can go towards the car

What's her phone number? I want to cut some grass :newangel:.

[FGX-351]

quote from ArgonEF "For those that are single and looking, bit of advice, make the most of your freedom. Your not missing out on much. Those in relationships, keep yourselfs and partners happy."

Mate i couldnt agree more with you on that, people dont realise how serious business bein in a relationship can be. ya cant just half a$$ it lol, thats why i am personally into one nighters and friends with benefits, i have a buddy whos 21...not too bad since im 17, as long as my gf doesnt find out, its all sweet lol, btw i dont condone my attitude and dont recommend u pay attention if ur looking for serious long term relationships:p

[MustangNicko]

My gf is my best friend has been for a while now.. We've been together for over a year now and its been unreal. Ups and downs? Of course, what relationship doesnt have them. I try and make her happy all the time, whenever i get the chance. Its not the big things that girls appreciate, its the 1%er's. I find her irresistable physically and mentally I dont make an "effort" for her. It comes naturally.

[EA2BA]

Dont expect people to change, if they aren't want you really want, stop wasting each others time, cut your loses and move on, you will find someone who fits in with you and makes you happy, and you will make them happy without alot of effort.

[MustangNicko]

Originally Posted by EA2BA

Dont expect people to change, if they are want you really want, stop wasting each others time, cut your loses and move on, you will find someone who fits in with you and makes you happy, and you will make them happy without alot of effort.

So true mate, well written. Changing the way you are will just frustrate things even more. But then again it also depends on what you're changing about yourself and vice versa with your partner.

[bindi]

True change comes from within, and if you change for someone else it won't work... so there is no point in harrassing your bf/gf to change.

[MustangNicko]

If someone expects you to change then they are not happy with you as a person. If something frustrates you then it will hold you back. No body is perfect, and it takes something true at heart to look past that.

[NAK302]

aw another feel good thread. my second wife gets what she wants most of the time. unwritten rule in our house is you get the same as you give. women want equality then give it to them. your shout, (insert sheilas name here)

[parawolf]

My partner and I are very happy... two lovely furry children (see the "Show us your pets" thread) and a comfortable house. We have been together since 1999, lived together in mid 2003 and bought a house in 2004. Got engaged about 3 months ago... and will get married in 2007.

Couldn't be happier. Doesn't it make you sick?

[MustangNicko]

Originally Posted by nak351

aw another feel good thread. my second wife gets what she wants most of the time. unwritten rule in our house is you get the same as you give. women want equality then give it to them. your shout, (insert sheilas name here)

Women want respect. And i have the upmost for my gf and she knows it. Without sounding "whipped", i worship the ground she walks on... she knows this but doesnt abuse it.

[NAK302]

Originally Posted by MustangNicko

Women want respect. And i have the upmost for my gf and she knows it. Without sounding "whipped", i worship the ground she walks on... she knows this but doesnt abuse it.

fair enough too, nicko. if that suits both of you then thats great. i guess it becomes a problem when that changes. the trick is to know when that change happens.

[honer]

Treat em mean, keep em keen !

[MustangNicko]

Might of worked in the 60's? :P

[Penelope Pitstop]

Ok so I am not a guy and I don’t have a girlfriend but thought I would share anyway…

Whilst I don’t agree with your labelling you could also look at it this way High Maintenance = High Self Esteem – they are aware of their worth and refuse to settle Low Maintenance = Low Self Esteem - they will take what they can get.

My theory is if it’s the right relationship with the right person at the right time then there is no effort required. You do the things you do to make the other person happy because their happiness means the world to you and if it’s meant to be then it will be reciprocated in the same way.

Cheers, Tori

[parawolf]

Originally Posted by PirtekGirl76

My theory is if it’s the right relationship with the right person at the right time then there is no effort required. You do the things you do to make the other person happy because their happiness means the world to you and if it’s meant to be then it will be reciprocated in the same way.

Spot on - with the right person it should never be an effort, it just happens.

[mrs xa coupe]

Originally Posted by ArgonEF

For those that are single and looking, bit of advice, make the most of your freedom. Your not missing out on much.

All I can say is if you feel that way you are in the wrong relationship. I have been with Jeff fro 8 years now, married for 6. We still make the effort to try hard to make each other happy, and that why we work so well. We try because we genuinely care about the other persons happiness, and that to me is the ultimate definition of "love". If trying to make her happy is an effort that you resent or have to force yourself to do, the you need to find someone else to be with.

Just my 2 cents worth. :

[b2tf]

Originally Posted by mrs xa coupe

All I can say is if you feel that way you are in the wrong relationship. I have been with Jeff fro 8 years now, married for 6. We still make the effort to try hard to make each other happy, and that why we work so well. We try because we genuinely care about the other persons happiness, and that to me is the ultimate definition of "love". If trying to make her happy is an effort that you resent or have to force yourself to do, the you need to find someone else to be with.

Just my 2 cents worth. :

you just wanted to be a mod! :



j/k :

[donno]

Pls delete, drunk.

[Feathers]

Originally Posted by PirtekGirl76

Whilst I don’t agree with your labelling you could also look at it this way High Maintenance = High Self Esteem – they are aware of their worth and refuse to settle Low Maintenance = Low Self Esteem - they will take what they can get.

Cheers, Tori

There are always exceptions to this.

A friend of mine is the most high maintenance girl I know (hell, it even gets on MY nerves), yet her boyfriend treats her like shyte because he knows that she won't leave since she has quite low self-esteem.
She buys him expensive presents, and gets a new outfit every time they go out, when he has already told her that he doesn't do things like that, and will never spend more than $20 on her.


On the other hand I'm very low maintenance.
But if this guy was my boyfriend, I would have walked out long ago.

[Valknutr]

Originally Posted by PirtekGirl76

High Maintenance = High Self Esteem – they are aware of their worth and refuse to settle Low Maintenance = Low Self Esteem

Cheers, Tori

i was with a girl that had low low low self esteem, and lets just say very high maintenance, but i did get her out of her clinical depression so big ups to me

[mrs xa coupe]

Originally Posted by back2thefutura

you just wanted to be a mod!

Ha !!!! We got married well before the forums came around. I guess I had a deep seated desire to be a FFAU widow!!!!!!!!! :

[Sourbastard]

The forums are a demanding mistress.... and she doesnt put out either.