Buck's night fallout

[chich]

Originally Posted by RATT

She'll get over it.

Exactly... just ignore her and she'll get over it. Just nod and say "yes babe" to whatever she says.

If that fails just deny it ever happened... you went and played a night game of golf. Simple :

[F6T]

Originally Posted by XR06T

i think that this is some very good advice. i also think that by her spilling her guts she will be able to solve her own problems, all you do is have to be there to listen. Once she has actually said everything she has to say she will be able to see that either she is being unreasonable and is not making any sence to herself or anyone else, or you will be able to see what you have to do.

you got guts mate, for posting your story.. and i really hope it helps what has been said throughout this thread.

best of luck with it tiger..

Yep....she's all sorted out now. Just sat there and listened to her point of view. Turns out she was just wanting to vent. It is tough to listen to someone vent to you when the person they are bagging out is a friend - but in this case, I just had to listen to her point of view on it and assure her that if my mate does anything out of line or disrespectful towards her that I will stand up for her, no matter who it is. Of course I would do this.

She agreed that she had deceived herself into thinking that she was cool with me going to the strip club so she didn't look like the kill joy to all my mates and that it was wrong to say to me it was fine and then crack the sh*ts when it wasn't.

So all sorted.

It's funny though, she wouldn't let me come anywhere near her until she had scrubbed me all over in the spa - just in case there was any stripper scent/glitter/whatever still on me.......women sure are strange!

thanks again to everyone for your advice. will post up some pics of the wedding after the big day!

[drnick]

Good to hear it worked out all okay for you. Suck it in an enjoy the big day! It goes oh so fast!

S

[Mark351]

Glad my advice did the trick.

[kooky]

Originally Posted by drnick

Good luck mate!

S

So this is where your hiding AH HA!!! :

[drnick]

I am everywhere Daz!!!

S

[fast gt]

Me and my fiance just read that and she laughed and called you a poor b*sta*d. We have been to strip clubs together, so I know when she says its ok for the bucks night, I know its OK for the bucks night, WITHOUT providing any details.

[crossingover]

Shes HeadFU###ing you buddy.Looks like she loves the mind games and this is her way of entering into your marriage with her wearing the pants.You need to be more firm as they say TREAT EM MEAN KEEP EM LEAN.Im in my second marriage and she sounds like my first wife.But ive now learnt second time around and what they dont know wont hurt them.Basically besides learning to cope with your current partner you also need to be selective with what you do with your mates from here on as mates are the first to come over and stir the pot between yourself and your partner.As you can see already there is so much you need to be careful of.Just tell her to get over it or **** off! That will test the waters but dont surrender, otherwise your balls will be packed in a lunch bag and your pants handed over to her.
Heres a poem for you hope yoou like ?

I'm Glad I'm a Man

I'm glad I'm a man, you better believe.
I don't live off of yogurt, diet coke, or cottage cheese
I don't ***** to my girlfriends about the size of my breasts.
I can get where I want to - north, south, east or west.

I don't get wasted after only 2 beers,
And when I do drink I don't end up in tears.
I won't spend hours deciding what to wear.
I spend 5 minutes max fixing my hair.

And I don't go around checking my reflection
in everything shiny from every direction.
I don't whine in public and make us leave early,
And when you ask why get all bitter and surly.

I'm glad I'm a man, I'm so glad I could sing.
I don't have to sit around waiting for that ring.
I don't gossip about friends or stab them in the back.
I don't carry our differences into the sack.

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Or think every guy out there's trying to steal you.
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I know what the time is and I know what to do.

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To have these two balls and stand when I pee.
I live to watch sports and play all sorts of ball.
It's more fun than dealing with women after all.

I won't cry if you say it's not going to work.
I won't remain bitter and call you a jerk.
Feel free to use me for immediate pleasure.
I won't assume it's permanent by any measure.

Yes, I'm so very glad I'm a man, you see.
I'm glad I'm not capable of child delivery.
I don't get all bitchy every 28 days.
I'm glad that my gender gets me a much bigger raise.

I'm a man by chance and I'm thankful it's true.
I'm so glad I'm a man and not a woman like you!

And now it's time for a rebuttal.....

I'm glad I'm a woman

I'm glad I'm a woman, yes I am, yes I am.
I don't live off of Budweiser, Beer Nuts and Spam.
I don't brag to my buddies about my erections.
I won't drive to Hell before I ask for directions.

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And I know how to put that damned toilet seat down!
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My belt buckle's not hidden beneath my beer gut.

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It doesn't grow from my ears or cover my back.
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To have these two boobs and to squat when I pee.
I don't live to play golf and shoot basketball.
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I won't tell you my wife just does not understand,
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Then screw you, roll over and fall sound asleep!

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Forget all about that old ***** envy.
I don't long for male bonding, I don't cruise for chicks
Join the Hair Club For Men, or think with my dick.

I'm a woman by chance and I'm thankful, it's true.
I'm so glad I'm a woman and not a man like you!

[XR6_661]

Get used to it buddy, you're getting married.

[Lukeyson]

unless you fondled your cousin stripper, she has nothing to be cranky about.

How was you to know it was a test ??

Keep it real son !

[atec77]

Originally Posted by madxh96

so I had my buck's night on friday night. still feeling ordinary today but managed to keep my eyebrows intact.

got dragged into a strip club for a public humiliation, violation, denigration, emasculation etc (as you do!). The thing is, is that I got the OK from my fiancee to go to a strip club if that was on the agenda (bear in mind that I had no idea whatsoever of what was instore for me). The deal was that she would be OK with this so long as I provided her with all the details. :

As it turns out, after hearing about all the details, she has decided that she is not very happy about it at all. All I had was a lap dance (no touching) and then was given a humiliation by 2 strippers. we then had to leave as the next girl that came out on to the stage turned out to be a cousin of mine!!! (shock horror) so we left.

She is now saying that the only reason she gave me the green light was to see if, in the face of 20 of my closest mates, I could say no to being dragged into the place. In other words, she baited me into it as a test to see if I would say no of my own accord. I failed.

It is 4 weeks from the wedding. She is bitterly disappointed and embarrassed with me. I think it is a very unfair situation and was just a bit of harmless fun. I have been getting cold ar*e pie since saturday morning and the full silent treatment and it doesn't look like letting up and my patience is wearing thin. I have a feeling that it is going to end up in tears or a serious argument with the wedding being called off or something stupid unless she can come to terms with what has happened and that it really isn't all that bad.

Wondering if anyone else out there has had to deal with this and what you guys have done to get them to realise that these places are just sleezy businesses, and that the girls are only doing it, not because they are attracted to you, but because they are being paid to do it. Just a bit of harmless fun. I am interested in what you ladies out there think about the situation too.

Her hens night is coming up this week. I was thinking of arranging a male stripper for her so that she can see first hand how silly the whole thing is and just a laugh for everyone (in the right setting of course)!

How do I manage this people??

She seems to have trust issues , good for you to know now and address them , personally I would have a chat and suggest she grow up and realise you are trust worthy and care sufficiently to not want random sex with anyone but her no matter how little she trusts you , or you could just ignore it , hard choice and needs some thought on your part , do you leave 'em at the door or grow new ones ?. good luck either way .

[atec77]

Originally Posted by Rodp

Sorry dude, but I'd be running as fast as I could away from this girl. Multiply by 10 what she's like now and that's what she will be like a year after you're married.

You are correct , and every little fight will be an excavation of the past , fix it now or have a rethink . There is no choice if you want to keep wearing them.