First impressions of single life (a short rant). - Page 3

Leah · 11-07-2005, 08:51 PM

Hey xdc351...

Just thought id add my 2cents worth. If youre in melb, try the Arcadia bar (corner Punt & Toorak Rds). I used to go there a fair bit and a heap of the girls from work go there coz its not a meat market like so many other places. Its actually really sorta "laid back". Theres some pool tables, an outside beer garden bit and entertainment. Uni nights are i think wednesdy & thursday nights. As i said, I used to go there with my mates and we always had an awesome time. No skanky little trollops, mainly down to earth Aussie chicks.

So yeah, maybe give that a try. Not the nightclub scene, more a relaxed bar/pub scene!

Good luck!

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Mark^^ · 11-07-2005, 08:56 PM

try a gay bar...always plenty to pick up there LOL Not that I would go to one, even being gay..way too scary!

MotherNatureVer2 · 11-07-2005, 10:35 PM

Greg, Greg, Greg .... you are looking in the wrong places at the wrong time sweety ;)

Just take a chill pill & relax & try to enjoy singleness ..... it aint that bad & you could always take a visit to us gals in NSW :P

hehehehehehehehe

**Chris** · 11-07-2005, 11:08 PM

just live, drive and survive.

life will happen bud. just enjoy the view.

little things will turn the knife

but take joy from the simple things mate, what doesn't kill you

only makes you stronger.

:1syellow1

12-07-2005, 01:02 AM

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Originally Posted by xdc351

I'm not looking for love thats for sure. But I do have standards.... and drunk nightclub bimbo's just don't do it for me.

xdc, you need to stay away from the pub/club scene, that's a no no! As mentioned you can even find some interesting ladie's on car club runs. At least you would have a common interest.

And there is nothing wrong with chat rooms either. That way you can express as much or as little about yourself as you want, without any hassles, and if things are running smoothly then arrange to meet.

but don't go looking just because you feel the need to be part of a couple, as that won't work.

au-steve · 12-07-2005, 01:38 AM

theres nothing wrong with a good pub or club, u guys r crazy!

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xdc, you need to stay away from the pub/club scene, that's a no no!

while your at it! stay away from restaurants, shopping centres, cinemas, petrol stations, fast food outlets, actually just dont leave home! Bound to find a girl...

MITCHAY · 12-07-2005, 02:01 AM

More likely than not chicks that are at nightclubs are there every weekend gettn smashed and all they care about is partying with no care for the future. Surely there would be some smart chicks there who go occasionally but you would have to go through about the 95% of the drunk skanks to get to them and i doubt that would be easy.

If i want a root i know thats the place to go but odds are you wont find the goal orientated, smart chick at a nightclub.

Ive had those types of chicks before and it does get too eratic and drives you nuts when you cant have anything else besides partying.

Ive got both chick and guy friends like that and while they might be having fun now they will in all likeliness regret it later. I know so many people who only cared about partying and have gotten no where wishing they had concentrated on other things better.

loxxr6 · 12-07-2005, 10:04 AM

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More likely than not chicks that are at nightclubs are there every weekend gettn smashed and all they care about is partying with no care for the future. Surely there would be some smart chicks there who go occasionally but you would have to go through about the 95% of the drunk skanks to get to them and i doubt that would be easy.

So smart professional people generally don't go to clubs or parties ? Having this thought in your head won't get you anywhere.

If you're going to dives then you're gonna get "drunk skanks" or "drunk bastards" (for the ladies). Find somewhere classy.

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Ive got both chick and guy friends like that and while they might be having fun now they will in all likeliness regret it later. I know so many people who only cared about partying and have gotten no where wishing they had concentrated on other things better.

If people do nothing but party then yeah thats a waste. I hear you on that.

Shonky · 12-07-2005, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by back2thefutura

LMAO!

Between this thread and the one about the vinyl lesbian, I can see Im going to have to arrange an FFAU Dating Tent for the All Ford Day.

With live exhibitions by ssj jaypee's lesbifriends?

gtfpv · 12-07-2005, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by MITCHAY

Oh i also hate it when your good friends with a chick and then they say "oh i dont want to ruin our friendship if we f**k up" My understanding has always been that good relationships start from good friendships. Its one line in mind that i hate hearing.

mate i don't care what anyone says i don't think it is possible for a man to be friends with a girl . unless its a flirt like mad thing . and that is something friends don't do . ise :you would'nt flirt with your mates would you? if you did you'd be gay.

MITCHAY · 12-07-2005, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by loxxr6

So smart professional people generally don't go to clubs or parties ? Having this thought in your head won't get you anywhere.

Yeah they do but more often than not its people who arent goal orientated or not smart. I said smart people would be there but would be far outnumbered by drunk skanks. Im smart and go out get smashed but it isnt my life if you get what i mean.

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Originally Posted by gtfpv

mate i don't care what anyone says i don't think it is possible for a man to be friends with a girl . unless its a flirt like mad thing . and that is something friends don't do . ise :you would'nt flirt with your mates would you? if you did you'd be gay.

It is possible to be friends with a chick. I was friends with this chick for nearly a year and seriously felt like 5 years. Everyone was like yeah you two should be together and i thought that aswell but it didnt go that way, things got sour for reasons too long to expand on and that was it i told her to f**k off. It was really close and seriously never was so into a chick before in my life but yeah we both have regrets and i dont talk to her anymore.

I wouldnt be all flirty with them though if i dont like them. I like to get to know a chick first and lucky i do because more often to not the true colours shine through and rather that happen when Im not in a relationship with them than if i was goin out with them.

Lol and there is no way id flirt with guy mates coz that is gay and i dig the chicks hahha.

EA2BA · 12-07-2005, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by gtfpv
mate i don't care what anyone says i don't think it is possible for a man to be friends with a girl

I think its only possible if they BOTH arent single.

bindi · 12-07-2005, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Dellboy999

I think its only possible if they BOTH arent single.

The above statement doesn't necessarily stop either sex from having affairs though.

Friendships btwn males and females is possible, just rare and difficult. One is secretly wishing to pants the other, no matter how platonic they each think or say it is.

The only way to be mates is over the net, not IRL. We're all friends here aren't we?

This is why my feelings on monogamy are not your average, because it just doesn't work for most people (think of a. our divorce rate and b. the amount of affairs we're all apparently having!).

Pilch · 12-07-2005, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Dellboy999

I think its only possible if they BOTH arent single.

Probably true, but probably has more to do with personalities i'd reckon. But we'll see.....

Heeno · 12-07-2005, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Dellboy999

I think its only possible if they BOTH arent single.

i must disagree, i have a very good female friend, have been good friends since grade 8! we even changed schools together, hung out nearly everyday and always looked after eachother, nothing ever happend between us and nothing ever will, chic friends are great to have, they always have good useful information in regards to relationship problems and always great to sit down and have good ol deep n meaningful's with.
i have plenty of female friends that nothing would ever happen with and thats just how it is and we all get along just fine.
EDIT:also i have a gf have been together 2 years and she get along great with them to, problem is one of my chic friends know me so well i think they secretly talk about me behind my back

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TURBO_GHIA · 12-07-2005, 02:28 PM

i have a couple of female friends ,both i have liked in the past one i even went out with ,im not really close to them ,but still friends ,hang up once in a while ,talk to them the usually find of stuff

12-07-2005, 02:28 PM

My wife and I were genuine friends before anything else. We've been married 11.5 years and we're still friends.

MITCHAY · 12-07-2005, 02:30 PM

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Originally Posted by WeirdEL

My wife and I were genuine friends before anything else. We've been married 11.5 years and we're still friends.

Thats what im talking about. A relationship is an extension of a good friendship with benefits hehehe

Heeno · 12-07-2005, 02:35 PM

the funny thing is with me n my gf, we were friends for about a year before we were going out, and at that time she was dating my mate who did the dirty on her and a year after that we started going out, mind you i asked my mate before i asked my now gf out and he had no worries and all get along fine.....weird ey!

FordGirl · 12-07-2005, 02:42 PM

The thing about night clubs is people go there for a quick/easy pick up that they can forget about tomorrow. I don't know anybody who has picked up at a club and actually ended up dating the person.

I think you need to be happy with being single before you should go throwing yourself into another relationship, give yourself time to adjust. Go out with your buddies, have a great time... go play pool, go to the drags, etc.. and you might find this amazing girl when you least expect it.

Just think of all the money you can save and put into your car!!

MITCHAY · 12-07-2005, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by FordGirl

The thing about night clubs is people go there for a quick/easy pick up that they can forget about tomorrow. I don't know anybody who has picked up at a club and actually ended up dating the person.

Thanx you just summed up what ive been getting at

Falcon Girl · 12-07-2005, 03:11 PM

I've been single for the best part of a year now, not necessarily the way I would like things but you can't let it get you down. Have to make the most of it!

Like FordGirl said, go out with friends who you haven’t seen in ages, go to car racing events/shows, go to a laid back bar, do a short course which runs over the period of a couple of weeks. Just get out there and have fun!

One piece of advice though, don't rush into a relationship - for the sake of having a relationship. It will end in tears. As hard as it maybe sometimes, just be patient and the perfect one for you will come for you in time! :1syellow1

kooky · 12-07-2005, 03:30 PM

dont go out looking to hunt one down, be patient the right one will fall in your lap.

Laminge · 12-07-2005, 03:41 PM

I hope all you girls and guys intend to come on saturday to heatchote and meet some of us in person!

bindi · 12-07-2005, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by FordGirl

The thing about night clubs is people go there for a quick/easy pick up that they can forget about tomorrow. I don't know anybody who has picked up at a club and actually ended up dating the person.

I met my husband when I was 18 and he was 16 at the local RiSsoLe (yes, he was underage) and we got married, have three kids etc.

So now you know somebody who's done that.

Rodp · 12-07-2005, 04:53 PM

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Originally Posted by gtfpv

mate i don't care what anyone says i don't think it is possible for a man to be friends with a girl . unless its a flirt like mad thing . and that is something friends don't do . ise :you would'nt flirt with your mates would you? if you did you'd be gay.

Of course it's possible. I've got heaps of female friends that I have no desire to be anything but friends with them and no interest in flirting with them. I'm going to the movies with one of them tonight.

FordGirl · 12-07-2005, 05:09 PM

I've had male friends that I thought were JUST FRIENDS and then you find out that they'e developed feelings for you...

It is pretty rare to find a guy who you can be JUST FRIENDS with without either of you developing feelings, but it does happen!

AdzT3-146 · 12-07-2005, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by MITCHAY

More likely than not chicks that are at nightclubs are there every weekend gettn smashed and all they care about is partying with no care for the future. Surely there would be some smart chicks there who go occasionally but you would have to go through about the 95% of the drunk skanks to get to them and i doubt that would be easy.

mate it all depends where u go. if u go to a young person-oriented club then you would expect a lot more airheads. if you go to clubs based on having a good time and no real target age then you will find a lot more intelligent girls. i've met girls that are veterinarians (spelling?) and a I.T consultant in clubs just to name a couple.

cogdoc · 12-07-2005, 07:13 PM

To you legends with lots of female friends you have no plans on...GOOD ON YOU!
One less to compete with....

xdc351 · 12-07-2005, 07:33 PM

Thanks for the advice and tips here! I was just a litlle annoyed and hungover when I wrote the post... I'm having a good chuckle at it now.

As I said, I'm not out looking for a replacement, far from it. Been burned real bad by the events of the last month or so. But I stand by my rant about clubs ;)

P.s. I don't even need to pick up at clubs.... but I'm keeping why to myself